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Jul. 26 2010 - 2:49 pm | 1,907 views | 0 recommendations | 12 comments

Why Is Rihanna Singing in Eminem’s Domestic Violence-Fueled Single?

Rihanna in her Last Girl on Earth Tour

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It has been a year and a half since Chris Brown was arrested for assaulting Rihanna, his girlfriend at the time, the night before the 2009 Grammy Awards. Both of them have released albums since then, acknowledging the incident in their own ways – Brown with songs like the over-the-top “Changed Man,” and Rihanna more subtly on tracks like “Stupid in Love” and “Cold Case Love.”

Though she shouldn’t have to forever wear her victimhood on her sleeve, Rihanna did express in interviews following the incident that she felt to compelled to speak out about her ordeal out of concern for her young fans who might be dealing with similar problems. It’s pretty bizarre, therefore, that her newest hit has her singing the hook on a domestic violence-fueled Eminem track, the single “Love the Way You Lie,” currently No. 1 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.

Rihanna’s portion of the song is rather tongue-in-cheek. She moans the refrain throughout: “Just gonna stand there and watch me burn, well that’s all right because I like the way it hurts/Just gonna stand there and hear me cry, well that’s all right because I love the way you lie.” In between her bouts of singing, though, Eminem hurls angry words that paint a scary picture of a relationship gone wrong, a theme typical of his raps. “I feel so ashamed, I snap … I laid hands on her/I’ll never stoop so low again/I guess I don’t even know my own strength,” he spits, before closing the song with this terrifying revelation: “I’m tired of the games, I just want her back I know I’m a liar/If she ever tries to fucking leave again, I’ma tie her to the bed and set this fucking house on fire.”

Subtle, Eminem is not. Which makes Rihanna’s participation in such an explicitly violent song all the more hard to understand. She has lent her vocals to countless rap tracks by other artists, giving a strong feminine touch to songs like “Run This Town” with Jay-Z and Kanye West, and “Live Your Life” with T.I. And while some of those songs contained vaguely violent elements, they were rooted in metaphor (“Get your fatigues on”), and had Rihanna as an active participant – she dons the same all-black outfit and badass swagger as the men she’s next to. But in “Love the Way You Lie,” the girl at the center of the story is clearly and unequivocally a victim, even if Eminem describes being hurt by her too.

Rihanna certainly isn’t obligated to forever use her music as a platform from which to speak out against abuse. There has to be a happy medium, however, between advocating for women and participating in a song in which one is getting beaten to death.


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    Sara, I don’t see the Eminem/Rihanna single as endorsing or making light of domestic violence, nor do I see Rihanna’s vocal part as being at all tongue-in-cheek. While I can see that it might send a mixed message to some, more importantly, it paints a very vivid and realistic picture of what goes on in more relationships than we’d like to imagine. Women, for various reasons, whether it’s low self-esteem or economics, make excuses for violent men and basically keep going back for more. And I don’t think we should be too quick to assume that Rihanna is not singing from personal experience.

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    Where I think this song succeeds is that it manages to highlight the issue of domestic violence by showcasing the irrational viewpoint of someone in the midst of an abusive relationship (most of the lines delivered can easily be imagined as the type of emotionally charged lies told in such an abusive relationship). Taken with a heavy dose of irony (as I believe was the artist’s true intent here), the message this song carries is exactly the opposite of what you have posted. If you listen closely, there are subtle hints (lines like “You don’t get another chance, life is no Nintendo game.” and the much less subtle “Next time? There won’t be a next time!”) that point to a message a full 180 degrees from the one you have interpreted.

    I suppose if all you have to compare this song to is some of Eminem’s more sensationalist, immature, and intentionally shocking previous works, and if you take lines like the ones you quoted in your post as literal and intended as carrying the message at face-value, it’s easy to see where you drew your conclusions from. I think you completely missed the mark here though, and I encourage you to listen to this song again from a much less literal point of view, I think you’ll find the message is quite the opposite of what you understood it to be.

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    The eminem track is better and feels more real than any of the other tracks you mention. It may portray something you don’t agree with but it’s hard to deny the truth in his words as opposed to the other rappers.

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    I completely agree with Jeremy here. It depends on how you interpret the song. Sorry for commenting on this post this “late.” I was looking at the popular posts “in the past 24 hours” and this was, oddly enough, listed. Read it anyway.

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