Comment of the Day

Yep. You could execute an “Order 66” on every homo alive right now, and in 20 years or so, there would be a whole fresh crop of us!

But who’s to say every queer wants there to be ‘gay marriage’? That’s just the name of another hetero institution; like many other institutions we’ve been forced to accept, that have proven to disappoint on so many levels.

Many of us (older ones) never had the faintest idea of an acceptable role model growing up (ok kids try to imagine no internet), or someone who could give us a ‘birds and the bees’ talk (in way that really made sense anyway).

The strength of developing within that – what could I call it – existential poverty of sexual self discovery (?) is that many of us had to form an Identity and sense of self love, completely de novo, borrowing concepts from others but ultimately constructing a “Life” on our own.

Then there’s the lucky percentage of us that have normal, long term partnerships of mutual social, economic and every other type of support that any happy straight couple enjoys. You don’t see them as much; they’re more likely working on the house than marching in a parade in a onesy – but they’re there!

So what do you call that? Marriage? It’s just a little more precious to me than that. A little more *sacred* to me than that institution I’ve seen so many straight couples take for granted. It took a little more work than even that ancient institution that the religious right seems convinced we’re just not meant to enter.

No, we don’t need Marriage. Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell, Obama for that matter – you can all fucking keep marriage. We just need respect and equality; so when there are estate and hospital issues that hatred and misunderstanding don’t get in the way of what really should be done.

Those are some hopeful statistics; thanks Ryan.

— andygeiger

On: The Gay Gap