In adultery, ‘other woman’ usually takes the blame
By now, most New York City residents have probably seen the front page of the New York Post today and its glaring headline: ‘Tiki Barber dumps pregnant wife for hot blonde.’ In case you haven’t, check out the link to the online story.
Great, add him to the list of recent cheaters – Jesse James, Tiger Woods, you guys are off the hook. Not only did Tiki cheat on his wife, he cheated on his pregnant wife. I hate to say it, because Tiki is a genuinely nice guy, but maybe he should be taken down from the pedestal New Yorkers have placed him on since his ten-year football career ended. No, Tiki Barber is not a god. Yes, he is human.
What really bothers me about the whole article, and especially the comments following it, was that a brunt of the blame falls on the ’sexy former NBC intern Traci Lynn Johnson.’ Correct me if I’m wrong, but she wasn’t the one in the relationship who was married with two kids and two more on the way.
And she’s 23, to Tiki’s 35. (By the way, today is Tiki’s birthday, what a great gift the Post gave him. Nice work, guys.)
But back to the maturity thing. Maybe he should have been the one who knew better. Most 23-year-olds would be thrilled that a football star, local celebrity and Today show correspondent was even looking their way, much less giving them love and attention. I’m not saying Johnson should be assuaged of all guilt in the situation – there was wrongdoing on each side. But Tiki is the one who made the choice to cheat in the first place. Johnson wasn’t married; she wasn’t cheating.
The commenters on the story were particularly harsh on Johnson. One refers to her as a ’status symbol,’ another, an ‘air head.’ A third says that Tiki’s wife, Ginny, ’sooo much better looking than the girlfriend.’ Most biting are comments from a reader only identified only as ‘Middletwn,’ who writes these harsh words directed solely at Johnson.
Gee Traci, I bet your mom is real proud of you now!!! People in Middletown, NY aren’t really all that shocked, big surprise you wrecked his marriage-didn’t you babysit his kids too and were friendly with his wife. Carma [sic] will get you in the end Traci good luck!!!!’
Um, what about Tiki? How is this not just as equally his fault? I guess shit really does roll downhill.
But maybe this story has deeper implications about our society as a whole. When things go wrong in a marriage and a man strays, it’s easier to blame the younger, ‘air-head’ other woman instead of the philandering man, especially when said man is a local celebrity like Tiki.
Well, played, Post.