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Recently, it seems that all of my gay and lesbian friends have been asking, “Why is Obama ignoring the gays?” I’ve always felt compelled to defend the President, making the popular argument that federally legalizing same-sex marriage is both political suicide for a first term president and, perhaps, unconstitutional. I’m not as idealistic as many of my friends, and plus, the president has a lot on his plate right now.
Ever since Barack Obama initiated his presidential run, he has stuck by the notion that marriage should not be defined the federal government. Rather, it should be defined by the states. I can live with that stance, though admittedly I am a bit tired of hearing the President refer to civil unions as if they were some major privilege the LGBT community should be grateful to possess (if in fact their state allows them.) In truth, I don’t even blame Obama for saying that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. He’s a politician, and he first made that statement when he was a rookie running for president. Side note: I try to ignore that the infamous Miss California made almost the same statement on same-sex marriage. And, I try to forget that former Vice President Dick Cheney is apparently more supportive of same-sex marriage than President Obama.
Last night, on Brian Williams’ report, “Inside the Obama White House,” on NBC, when asked about same-sex marriage and whether or not gays and lesbians who want to marry have a friend in the White House, President Obama answered, “I don’t think that it makes sense for the federal government to determine what marriage is; that isn’t traditionally the federal government’s role.” OK, fine. We get it. It should be up to the states so there’s nothing you can do, Mr. President.
But wait a second. Did we all forget those four fateful letters? The ones that stand for more-than-a-decade-old legislation which betrays the concept of equal rights? Is Obama not aware that DOMA (otherwise known by its frightening name, the Defense Of Marriage Act) is still in place? Signed under President Bill Clinton in 1996, the bill federally defines marriage as between a man and a woman. The act also includes that no state is required to recognize a union of marriage that is performed in any other state. In other words, if you’re married in any of the six states (New Hampshire joined the pack yesterday) that have legalized same-sex marriage, your marriage is legally worth nothing if you travel across state lines, unless of course the state you travel to has a specific law recognizing your union. And there aren’t many of those.
Surely Obama is aware that DOMA exists. In fact, last year he called the law “abhorrent.” In addition, he said that he would “fully repeal the Defense of Marriage Act and enact legislation that would ensure that the 1,100+ federal legal rights and benefits currently provided on the basis of marital status are extended to same-sex couples.” Amazing! Oh wait, “On the basis of marital status” does not mean same-sex marriage. But yes! He said he’d repeal DOMA! But… It’s almost a year later and he hasn’t really mentioned it since.
If our President feels so strongly that marriage should be left up to each state, then why is DOMA, a law that federally defines marriage between members of the opposite sex, still in place? I don’t think the LGBT community, as a whole, is expecting President Obama to be a gay activist by any means. It’s his first term. In fact, we’re in his first 200 days. We’ve got two wars going on, an economic – ahem, GM – crisis, and the famous Obama health care bill to push through. That said, the fight for same-sex marriage is arguably the last great civil rights fight in this nation. The president who preached “change,” and whose parents would not have been able to be married in 6 states in 1967 because one was black and one was white, should surely understand the LGBT plight. Right?
As of now, wrong. There is no way of knowing President Obama’s personal views on same-sex marriage. However, as the temperature of this country turns to equality, watching states advance by a seemingly domino effect towards the legality of same sex marriage, I have to wonder how long Obama can “ignore” the gays before it just becomes bad politics.
I don’t expect President Obama to make statements replete with ire on Proposition 8, nor do I expect a proposal from him to legalize gay marriage on a federal level. What we should all expect, however, is for President Obama to start making a serious move to overturn DOMA. Because with DOMA in place, hearing him repeat time after time that he believes marriage should be “left up to the states,” is starting to sound less like liberal rhetoric and more like hypocrisy. I’m a cautious supporter of your White House, President Obama. And I’d like to keep it that way. Overturn DOMA, and I’ll be a bit less cautious.