The Three-Year Itch
Ever feel like your life works in three year cycles?
At three, you are talking and walking, much different than a baby.
A six-year-old has progressed into school and is learning math, proper grammar and etiquette (or so we hope.)
A nine-year-old is opinionated and coming into their own.
At 12, you are nearly a teenager. It is the last days of innocence.
By 15, you are close to driving. Most have had first loves, first kisses and think the world revolves around them.
At 18, legally, you are an adult. College, work, the military and other life changing decisions are in motion. You finally have a chance to vote.
By 21, you have experienced so much. Legally, you can drink. Many are thinking about life after college.
At 24 you’re usually out of college. Some are married. Some aren’t. You’ve entered the workforce and may be on your second job.
When you hit 27, you usually know what you want and what you don’t. Statistically those who marry in their late 20’s are less likely to get divorced. Why? Because you have finally come into your own.
By age 30, statistically speaking, three-quarters of women in the U.S. have been married and about half have cohabited outside of marriage, according to the CDC. Depending on your life path, many are in the midst of babies, marriages and careers.
It just reminds me how life evolves.
Three is a powerful number.
Everyone talks about seven or even eight, but through out history the number three has symbolized so many important things. Think of the trinity: God the father, the Son and the Holy Ghost. Or the phrase, “body, mind and soul.” Three means equality, being balance and grounded. Many call it the divinity number. It symbolizes perfection and being complete. (See this wonderful discussion about the “Number 3″ on www.greatdreams.com.) Think of the shape of the great Egyptian pyramids. The triangle is the strongest shape to build a structure.The Bible discusses how Jesus was raised from the dead on the third day. There are “three jewels” in Buddhism, “three purities” in Taoism.
Everyone from Plato to Aristotle have referenced the number 3. Freud talked about the id, ego and super-ego while American psychologist Robert Sternberg has taught the three components of love revolve around the trio: passion, intimacy and commitment. Plus there’s everything else in our culture: the Three Musketeers, Three Stooges, the phrases A,B,C and 1, 2, 3, past, present and future and three primary colors (red, blue and yellow). Even in a photography or art class they teach the rule of thirds to make a picture or painting more appealing to the eye. In the “Harness the Psychological Power of “3″ to Improve Communication” post on Psychotactics.com, they discuss how the eye sees things in graphics, color and fonts and it’s importance for businesses when they are planning their logos and promotional information. It’s also important in life.
Sometimes we have no idea where things are going but it feels like life is moving so rapidly that everything slows down in Matrix like fashion so you can see more clearly.
Right now I’m going through that. Life is in transition.
For the past decade, I’ve made big moves every three years: college to Dallas, Texas to Florida, Florida to Chicago. I’m now at the three-year mark in this great city, but I can’t help but wonder what is next?
Sometimes you can just feel change swirling around you. Even if no one else realizes you are going through it, every part of your body tells you so. Everything in my life is point in that direction, in a matter of a few crazy weeks. My uncle asked me for part of my liver. A man I care very deeply about just walked out of my life (and cut off contact with a few other people we both know.) I’m also getting ready to move and I’m not really sure where I’m going to go. (And no, the latter two aren’t related.) Last week, a family member died. A series of other unusual events have also recently happened.
In a few weeks, I’m going to hit my 33rd birthday, so in an odd way, it makes sense. I’ve got the three-year itch. It’s nerve-wracking. But change can be good, even when it is forced change.
I only wish I knew what was coming next. I’ve got some big decisions to make.