Comments on: Breaking up in a digital fishbowl, revisited. (Or: How the New York Times filleted me on the front page of the Style section)

By: I Think I Love My Wife | AXI

I Think I Love My Wife | AXI — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 05:20:11 +0000

[...] Breaking Up In A Digital Fishbowl, Revisited. (Or: How The New “No ring, no passwords.” I love my wife, but even she does not have my email account p… [...]

By: citifieddoug

citifieddoug — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 23:19:46 +0000

This reminds me of the story a friend told me about how he had been so baffled by a recent ex’ dumping that he stewed and stewed and even tried guessing her email password to find out if there had been someone else.

“You got in, I take it.”

“How’d you know?”

“Because for that crime, the only proper punishment is success.”

By: William Henry Turner

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 23:11:32 +0000

It seems as though most of the posts in this thread are from journalists, so my perspective as a non-journalist might interest you all: On the subject of Kashmir being upset about being misquoted, every news account (OK, maybe almost every account) of events with which I have had some familiarity has been distorted, so I read everything with skepticism.

I imagine that many people who are like me (notice the gray beard) share my skepticism, especially about those anecdotal articles.

Regarding your question about men possibly being more reluctant to talk publicly about their personal lives, I am reluctant to talk publicly about anything, based on the above.

By: Cavemen (and women): stay out of my 21st century - Katie Drummond - The Extreme Self - True/Slant

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 16:25:55 +0000

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By: Jonathan Fishman

Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:44:46 +0000

kashmir hill, i’d like to buy you dinner and give you my password

By: Kashmir Hill

Kashmir Hill — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:35:54 +0000

This is fantastic advice.

By: Kashmir Hill

Kashmir Hill — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:35:30 +0000

I have never shared passwords in a relationship again. It was a matter of convenience (as I mention in a comment farther up the stream). As for reading that particular email, it was a result of my shameless snooping/curiosity. I saw an email with my name in the subject line, and couldn’t stop myself from reading it.

By: marsgirlka

marsgirlka — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:03:32 +0000

I believe you said elsewhere on this site that you have Google Voice. If you want to prevent this again in the future, insist on a phone interview and just press 4 to record the call. That way if a dispute arises, you can post the MP3 and hold them accountable.

By: charmian

charmian — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 20:10:19 +0000

I need to read through all these comments to see if anyone else asked, but I have a problem with impulsivity so I’m asking now – then reading.
I read that article, and that quote did seem strange. I would not worry about those that know you. They probably know you don’t talk/think that way.
As someone who doesn’t know you, I have to ask, especially since you write about PRIVACY issues…Why on EARTH did you and your boyfriend share passwords? I’ve never heard of such a thing, except maybe couples who wear matching shirts and things like that or have a joint Facebook page.
Why, even if you could , would you read a letter he wrote to his Mother?
I’m not lecturing here – but I really was intrigued by that.
That being said, this is something all journalists need to remember. These are real people they’re quoting. They need to think about how they’d feel.
I am sorry it happened to you – but by writing about how you felt you did a service and made good out of bad – and I commend you for that.

By: Jeff McMahon

Jeff McMahon — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 04:44:26 +0000

At least Kashmir controls one of the mirrors, even if it is a smaller one (getting bigger, though).