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May. 15 2009 - 4:37 pm | 30 views | 0 recommendations | 2 comments

The pitfalls of online dating… if you’re married and looking for sex slaves

seeking-arrangementsPeople have many reasons for pooh-poohing privacy. One reason is that privacy allows us to do bad things. A person without privacy is a well-behaved person.

In addition to letting you get away with bad things, keeping your affairs private can get you into trouble. Like, for example, if you were a Connecticut family man with millions in the bank who likes to occasionally do some online surfing for lascivious extracurricular entertainment. A person without privacy can’t maintain a secret sex life causing him to be blackmailed for hundreds of thousands of dollars:

Stephen Dent was perceived, above all, to be a family man, playing ice hockey with his two sons on the weekends, vacationing in Palm Beach and Nantucket.

But behind closed doors, the 54-year-old Greenwich, Conn., multimillionaire was a “sugar daddy” and “slave master” who courted his “sugar babies” online, lavishing them with thousands of dollars in exchange for companionship and kinky sex, according to court records.

But his sex life turned sour because he was repeatedly extorted over his flings with numerous sugar babies on the dating Web site SeekingArrangement.com, according to court records. Now police are charging a young couple with blackmailing Dent.

Court records revealed that Dent — a New England blue-blood and worth $100 million — was the “nameless victim” in at least three sexual blackmail plots, paying out more than $200,000 to keep his online sex life secret.

via Sugar Daddy Sites Attract Sexual Blackmailers – ABC News.

Dent, a Du Pont heir, likely tried to conceal his identity to avoid a blackmail situation. Maybe he had some clever pseudonym (“LookingForInDenturedLove”) for courting the 20-somethings who populate these sites. Brandon Wey, the site’s founder told the Greenwich Time, “He is obviously doing something wrong because no one else is having this problem.”

Regardless of Dent’s Internet savviness or lack thereof, the information available on us online makes it even harder to keep our identities secret there. So…. remember that and behave!

[As a side note, how are these type of sites less illegal than Craigslist's "Erotic Services"?]


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    Wow. Judgmental much? Maybe you want to tell me what good moral behavior is. Gee I think I read a book about this..uhm…yes, 1984..that’s the one. It amazes me that supposed people of intellect are retards when it comes to sex and morality. What business of ours is it of who puts who’s privates where? Privacy is much more important than you are writing about in this narrow minded bible thumping piece. How are we as a society going to regulate people with power without anonymity? Ultimate power ultimately corrupts. Maybe privacy is needed so whistle blows can keep freedom and transparency abundant.
    FYI as many women cheat on there husbands also…more than anyone would think.
    Marriage is a load of shit, left over from the dark ages. The fact that women and gays still believe in marriage is unimaginable in my mind. How many married people have sex with each other after 5 years? 10 years? etc… Wake the hell up. Comment is different than monogamy. Someday all of us will figure that out. Grok? If you don’t get grok you cannot retort to my statements. Says the great Jubal Harshaw.
    Can’t get over your headline, lame.

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    Clearly, the key to happiness is not to have any money. Not unusual to see a Du Pont in trouble. That family shouldn’t be left alone in a room without supervision. Wonder how they let him out of Delaware.

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