Comments on: Facebook has ruined the first date

By: Marc Flores

Marc Flores — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 01:38:10 +0000

This just made me more paranoid at what little I believe there is to say about me on my Facebook page. And in the past, I’ve tried to refrain from adding anyone I’ve dated to any of my social networking circles. Believe it or not, I would get the, “Who’s that? Why is this girl so friendly with you? What did she mean by this? That girl in your pic, is she an ex?” J-Fucking-Cristo. I thought we all outgrew that stuff just after high school.

By: Dating 2.0 - DOs & DON’Ts « The Misadventures of Julie

Dating 2.0 - DOs & DON’Ts « The Misadventures of Julie — Wed, 06 May 2009 15:21:25 +0000

[...] So when two articles came across my desk (well, my computer screen, to be really precise) yesterday about dating in a digital world, I was reassured that I’m not the only one grappling with questions such as Do Technologies Like Facebook, Twitter and Cellphones Affect Dating Compatibility? and Has Facebook has ruined the first date? [...]

By: Cheatham Pink

Cheatham Pink — Wed, 06 May 2009 13:46:23 +0000

It is my impression that the vast majority of first dates are never truly “blind.” How is looking at someone’s online profile meaningfully different than asking for biographical information from friends/acquaintances who may know something about a prospective date?

Does online dating change the way we date? or does it merely expand the dating pool to include people who until recently would have been too remote to encounter though more traditional social channels? I suppose I’m asking if the tension in your piece stems less from how online dating affects first-date small talk, and more from accepting that online profile stalking is essentially an anonymous and solitary pursuit?

By: Kashmir Hill

Kashmir Hill — Tue, 05 May 2009 21:20:55 +0000

Well, Lisa. I can tell you Twitter has not yet had discernible effects on my dating life.

Facebook, on the other hand, has definitely jump-started a few relationships. So I’m thankful for its existence. But I hate that it lets me do pre-first-date research (and I’m definitely guilty of that — I wouldn’t be a good journalist if I didn’t, right?). Instead of resisting the research impulse, I choose to pretend during the date that I haven’t gone Face-stalking.

By: Mark Drapeau

Mark Drapeau — Tue, 05 May 2009 20:49:41 +0000

I work with social media a lot, and have been known to date from time to time. There’s definitely an upside and a downside. The upside is that you can tell a lot about a person beforehand and that can lead to all sorts of icebreakers. The downside is that you might prejudge someone beforehand, leading to perceived dealbreakers.

By: Lisa Takeuchi Cullen

Lisa Takeuchi Cullen — Tue, 05 May 2009 19:14:10 +0000

I want to know how FB/Twitter has changed dating for *you,* Kashmir.

By: Rachel Lehmann Haupt

Rachel Lehmann Haupt — Tue, 05 May 2009 15:52:27 +0000

I know – and how much does you google search or profile really tell someone about you? I guess the lack of anonimity can also be a good things because at least it might separate the liers from the truth tells, that if people are lying on-line as well.

By: Jon Pyle

Jon Pyle — Tue, 05 May 2009 13:46:55 +0000

I hadn’t really thought about social media’s impact on dating, but I imagine it may actually be positive. I feel like it may enhance small talk because you already know a few things. As long as you’re not a person that posts their entire life on their profile, someone shouldn’t be able to find out everything before the first date.

But what do I know? It was late night IM conversations that were a catalyst for my relationship with my current wife.